March 30, 2018

Curated, Not Decorated

So many of us start out our SOMA lives having come from smaller quarters. Often after making this shift, what once felt like a crowded life suddenly feels empty and full of overwhelming possibility. That sofa that once felt way too big for your cramped living room now feels like a pin cushion. That lone standing lamp that lit up your entire bedroom now only produces a puddle of light. As a result, we often rush to furnish our spaces so that they feel “finished” – allowing us to get on with our busy lives.

Then time goes by and we settle into our homes. Kids get older, puppies become dogs, and kittens (hopefully) calm their wild ways. As our family changes so do our furniture needs. I have many clients who, after living in their homes for several years, wake up one day feeling underwhelmed by their spaces. What was “good enough” at IKEA 4 years ago (for so many different reasons) suddenly feels like a rickety relic of another era. That’s when you know it’s time for an upgrade.

I believe realizations like this are simply a part of the natural progression of homeownership. Once the madness of new homeownership dulls we can begin to focus on our spaces with a different eye – an eye toward curating, rather than decorating, our home. What does this mean exactly? Well, as we grow our tastes and needs evolve. As this happens, why not allow ourselves to fall in love with more substantial pieces of furniture and let the old “place holders” go? By taking your time to layer in quality pieces of furniture you are curating a home that begins to feel like an extension of you. An extension of the life within your walls.

If our homes are an extension of their inhabitants, they should reflect where those inhabitants are in their lives currently, as well as where they have been. Think of the way your childhood bedroom changed as you grew up. Mine started as a toy strewn floor, shifted to a haven for sleepovers, and ended up as a dark cave with posters covering every inch of wall. Hey, no judgements! All of this change happened gradually over the span of about 15 years and while the end looked a whole lot different than it did at the start, many of the elements remained the same. Your childhood room’s personality changed over time along side yours and, now that you are an adult, so should your home.

By layering our homes with furniture and accessories from different times in our lives we are communicating the story of our family’s evolution.  These new pieces don’t have to be “important” or have a pedigree. They don’t have to be antiques or come from high end furniture stores. They should simply speak to you in some way. To create a home that truly feels like “you”, curate, don’t decorate.

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